Pastors are Liars
When planting a church it doesn’t take long to realize that you don’t exactly know how to do everything. Over the past year and a half I come come to realization about something that was hidden from most church goers—pastors are excellent liars. Now, when I say that a pastor is a liar, it is 1) because I mean it and 2) unintentional, perhaps on their part. Let me explain.
When you plant a church you have to be proficient in so many areas: Bible study, computer programming, counseling, writing, leadership development, church history, conflict resolution, staff development, human resources and finance to name a few. I have found out quickly that I am not as good as I would like to be in these areas, and know no one who is. However, most churches expect their pastors be good, if not great, in all these areas. It is humbling and frustrating all at the same time. I can see how most vocational church leaders blow up in some manner.
So how does a pastor “slough” their way out of this? They try to appear like they do have a handle on all these areas. Which is deceptive, hence, makes them liars. I am in no means above this, but I am trying a new approach.
When asked to do something that is outside my experience or expertise I have been trying to say, “I am not going to lie to you, I am not very good at this,” or “This may be outside of my leadership level.” This gets some weird looks. And sometimes, in the back of my mind, that phrase that was taught to me from the mega church I once worked at rings in my ears, ACT LIKE YOU’VE BEEN THERE. I’m not a great actor. And I’m not a great liar either.
Today was proof of that. I met with two really great leaders who, through a series of simple questions, made me recognize the leadership diapers I was still wearing. Humbling? Yes. Unwanted? No. Embarrassed as I was I knew that I needed the questions because they made me realize something I already knew–I am not a perfect leader. I only wish I could find out where their shortfalls lie. Then I will be asking the questions.
I love that I go to a church were the pastors don’t act like they have everything figured out. I love that the pastors are humble enough to admit that and humble enough to seek guidance from wise counsel. Thanks for setting a tone of authenticity for Westwind.
Refreshing!!
It’s good that you’re not good at lying! A good liar scares me… It turns out parents, teachers, and probably many other “moral” professions are liars too! Glad to see pastors joining the esteemed list. I just started orientation at Columbia today! The people are very very smart and very very interesting! …probably a bunch of liars too! Lol
Hey Brother!
This is a reason I have always looked up too you. I have always known you to be humble to the core. We all have challenges and some churches bring out certain things that we are not proud of. Stay strong! I am praying for and with you friend.